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Unfollow Her

August 3, 2018

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(The below content is from an email that was released on March 16th, 2018 to our email tribe.  What followed after this hit inboxes across America at 1030am EST is the basis for my forthcoming book.)


Spring is fabulous for a myriad of reasons, but one thing that truly fires me up is the chance to do some Spring cleaning.

Last year around this time, I did some ’Spring cleaning’ that changed my life in a drastic way.  And it had nothing to do with items in my home.

I unfollowed her.

On instagram.  And on Facebook.

Although she didn’t intend to, she made me feel less than.

I compared my life to hers and wondered…

…why she had it so easy, and my life always seemed like a cluster.

…how did her makeup always look so perfect.  And her home.  And her kids.

…how was she always so happy?  Did she ever cry?

I told myself I was sticking around for outfit and trend inspiration when in reality she took from me more than she gave.  She had convinced me that my life somehow sucked.

I realized I couldn’t blame her.  I was the one choosing to stick around in this online friendship; I wasn’t guarding my heart.

In an effort to reclaim my worth, and fight back from the lies I was telling myself on the daily, I unfollowed her.

When I say that I unfollowed her, I actually unfollowed more than 500 people.

I gave myself a limit of only following 100 folks, and with a strict rule.  Each of those people had to give me life giving energy to conquer my day.  For me, this meant they had to live a transparent, vulnerable life.

All of the experts will tell you that you are the summation of the top 5 people you spend the most time with.

Nowadays, most of us spend more time with the gals we follow online than with our ‘in real life’ friends.

Social media gets a bad wrap, but I truly think it can be life giving when we actively choose with whom we hang out.

Instead of continuing to passively follow folks that set off your personal triggers, I challenge you to choose wisely.  It impacts your heart.

Today, I want you to unfollow her.  Tap that ‘unfollow’ button over and over again.

It’s the type of Spring Cleaning that can set you on a more confident, joy-filled trajectory for the seasons ahead.

To choosing wisely,

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